What Power Exchange Means to Me

A perspective from the heart of a submissive

D/s can be so beautiful. The exchange, the give and take,

the sublime surrender.

Yes it can be messy, at times it's complicated. It is often pain and sweat and tears and cum. It is hard work, it is commitment.

It is the building up of eachother, and providing a safe place to land. It is trust, it is being challenged, it is holding space. It is honesty and forgiveness.

It is raw and primal and lust and love and bitter and sweet and can make life so rich.

It is someone who encourages me to strive to be better because they know i can be while also seeing the beauty in me as I am. It is someone who inspires. It is someone who holds my hand, who cheers me on, who encourages not discourages.

It is empowering.

D/s to me is not shallow or vain. It isn't merely fishnets, or a Dom with a belt. It isnt overly filtered pics, cleavage and butt plugs. It isn't just sex.

It is communication and respect. It's the smile and laughter of a goofy joke just told. It is in firm instructions, and whispered sweet words. It is a bending, not breaking.

It is authenticity and vulnerability. It's being seen, really seen by someone who seeks to understand. Its being valued.

It is intimate connection at the highest level-

and maybe someday I'll be ready to find it again.